Moyo wa munthu umadziwika mobwerezabwereza ndi magawo omwe ululu waukulu wamtima umakhalapo. Kukula kwa ululu kumasiyanasiyana malinga ndi zomwe zachitika ndipo nthawi zambiri zimatipangitsa kuti tizimva ziwalo. Titha kungoganizira zomwe zikugwirizana nazo, timadzitaya tokha mu chisokonezo chamaganizo ichi, timavutika kwambiri ndipo chifukwa chake timataya kuwala komwe kumatiyembekezera kumapeto kwa masomphenya. Kuwala komwe kukungoyembekezera kukhala ndi moyo ndi ife kachiwiri. Chomwe ambiri amachinyalanyaza m'nkhaniyi ndi chakuti kusweka mtima ndi bwenzi lofunika kwambiri m'miyoyo yathu, kuti ululu wotere ukhoza kuchiritsidwa kwambiri ndi kulimbikitsa maganizo a munthu. M’gawo lotsatirali muphunzira mmene mungagonjetsere ululuwo, mmene mungapindulire nawo komanso mmene mungasangalalirenso ndi moyo.

Mfundo zazikulu m’moyo zimaphunziridwa mwa zowawa

Kwenikweni, chilichonse m’moyo wa munthu chiyenera kukhala chimodzimodzi monga momwe zilili. Palibe zochitika zakuthupi zomwe mukadakumana nazo zosiyana, chifukwa zikadakhala kuti china chake chikadachitika, ndiye kuti mukadazindikira lingaliro losiyana kwambiri ndikukhala ndi gawo lina la moyo. Zili chimodzimodzi ndi zowawa zowawa, mphindi zomwe zikuwoneka kuti zang'amba pansi kuchokera pansi pa mapazi anu. Chilichonse chili ndi chifukwa, tanthauzo lakuya ndipo pamapeto pake chimatumikira kukula kwake kwauzimu. Kukumana kulikonse ndi munthu, chokumana nacho chilichonse, ngakhale zinali zowawa bwanji, mwachidziwitso zidalowa m'miyoyo yathu ndikuyambitsa mwayi wakukulira. Koma nthawi zambiri zimativuta kusiya ululuwo. Timadzisunga tokha m'chidziwitso chodzipangira tokha, chowundana mwamphamvu ndikupitiriza kuvutika kosalekeza. Ndizovuta kwa ife kuyang'ana mbali zabwino za chidziwitso chamakono ndipo mu nkhaniyi nthawi zambiri timaphonya mwayi wa chitukuko chathu champhamvu chomwe mthunzi wotere umakhala nawo mwa iwo okha. Chokumana nacho chilichonse chowawa chimatiphunzitsa china chake ndipo pamapeto pake chimatitsogolera kuti tidzipezere nokha, munthu amafunsidwa ndi chilengedwe kuti akhalenso wathunthu, kuti adzipezenso, chifukwa chikondi, chisangalalo, mtendere wamkati ndi kuchulukira zimakhalapo kwamuyaya, ndikungodikirira kukhala mwachangu. anagwira ndi kukhala moyo ndi chikumbumtima kachiwiri. Ziribe kanthu zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wanu pakadali pano, ziribe kanthu zowawa zotani zomwe mudakumana nazo, kumapeto kwa tsiku gawo ili la moyo wanu lidzasinthanso kukhala labwino, musamakayikira zimenezo. Pokhapokha pamene munthu wakumana ndi mthunzi ndikutuluka mumdima ndi pomwe machiritso amatha kuchitika, pokhapokha ataphunzira za moyo wake. Panthawiyi ziyenera kunenedwa kuti ndinakumana ndi chodabwitsa chotero ine ndekha nthawi yapitayo. Inenso ndinali m’phompho lalikulu kwambiri la moyo wanga ndipo ndinaganiza kuti sindidzachoka mu ululu waukulu umenewu. Ndikufuna kubweretsa nkhaniyi pafupi ndi inu kuti ndikulimbikitseni, ndikuwonetseni kuti chilichonse chili ndi mbali yake yabwino komanso kuti ngakhale zowawa zamtima zimatha kudutsa ndikusinthidwa kukhala zabwino.

Chochitika chowawa chomwe chinasintha moyo wanga

Ndinali paubwenzi wazaka 3 mpaka miyezi itatu yapitayo. Ubale umenewu unabwera panthaŵi imene ndinali ndisanachitepo kanthu ndi nkhani zauzimu. Poyamba, ndinalowa muubwenzi umenewu chifukwa ndinkaona kuti tonsefe timafanana kwambiri. Kwenikweni, ndinalibe malingaliro pa iye, koma mphamvu yosadziwika inandiletsa ine kuti ndisamuuze izi ndipo kotero ine ndinalowa nawo mu ubale, chinachake chimene sichinali chogwirizana ndi malingaliro anga konse. Kuyambira pachiyambi amandikonda ndikundisamalira, anali kundikonda nthawi zonse ndikuwulula chikondi chake chozama kwa ine. Anandilandira moyo wanga wonse ndikundipatsa chikondi chake chonse. Pambuyo pa nthawiyo, zidayamba kuti ndidakhala ndi chidziwitso changa choyamba ndikuwunikira ndipo ndidagawana naye izi nthawi yomweyo. Tinkakhulupirirana kotheratu, tinapatsana moyo wathu wonse kwa wina ndi mzake pakapita nthawi ndipo ndimomwe ndinafotokozera zomwe ndinakumana nazo madzulo amenewo. Tinakulira limodzi ndikuphunzira moyo limodzi. Amandikhulupirira kwathunthu ndipo sanamwetulire pazomwe ndakumana nazo, m'malo mwake, amandikonda kwambiri chifukwa cha izi ndikundipatsa chitetezo chochulukirapo. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, ndinayamba kusuta udzu tsiku ndi tsiku.Kuchokera masiku ano, ndinganene kuti izi zinali zofunika kuti ndithe kuthetsa kuwonjezereka kwakukulu panthawiyo. Komabe, gulu loipali silinathe ndipo zinachitika kuti ndinadzipatula kwambiri. Ndinkasuta udzu tsiku lililonse ndikunyalanyaza chibwenzi changa panthawiyo kwambiri. Mikangano idayamba chifukwa cha kulemedwa kwanga ndekha ndipo ndinakhala ndekhandekha. Ndinamupweteka kwambiri moyo wake, sindinalipo konse kwa iye, sindinachite naye kalikonse, ndinamusamalira pang'ono ndikunyalanyaza chikhalidwe chake, ubale wake. N’zoona kuti ndinkamukonda, koma ndinkangodziwa pang’ono za zimenezi. Pazaka zitatu zaubwenzi, ndidasiya chilichonse kuti chichoke mmanja mwanga ndikuwonetsetsa kuti chikondi chake pa ine chikuchepa. Anavutika kwambiri ndi kumwerekera kwanga, chifukwa cholephera kumuululira za chikondi changa. Zinafika poipa kwambiri panthawiyi, analira kwambiri kunyumba, analipo kwa ena, ankakhala payekha ngakhale kuti anali ndi chibwenzi ndipo anali wokhumudwa kwambiri. Pambuyo pake anasweka n’kuthetsa chibwenzicho. Madzulo a tsiku limenelo pamene anandiimbira foni ataledzera ndi kundiuza zimenezi, ndinazindikira theka chabe la kuopsa kwa mkhalidwewo. M’malo mopita kunyumba kwake n’kukakhala naye, ndinagwetsa misozi, n’kusuta mafupa anga ndipo sindinkamvetsanso za dziko.

Ndinazindikira mzimu wanga wamapasa

Madzulo a tsiku lomwelo ndidagona usiku wonse ndikuzindikira nthawi iyi kuti ndiye mnzanga wapamtima (miyezi ya 3 m'mbuyomu ndidaphunzira kwambiri za anthu okwatirana, koma sindimaganiza kuti angakhale uyu). Kuti iye ndi munthu amene ndimamukonda ndi mtima wanga wonse, kuti khalidwe lake linapangitsa mtima wanga kugunda mofulumira. Kenako ndidakwera basi yoyamba kupita komwe amakhala 6 koloko m'mawa ndikumudikirira kumvula kwa maola asanu. Pamapeto pake, ndinadzadza ndi zowawa, chilichonse chinandipweteka, ndinalira mopwetekedwa mtima ndipo ndinapemphera chamumtima kuti asathetse chibwenzicho. Koma popeza sindinabwere kwa iye dzulo lake, adayendetsa galimoto ataledzera kupita kwa bwenzi lake, yemwe mwamwayi anali naye (mosiyana ndi ine madzulo a tsikulo, sindinamupezeko ngakhale madzulo omaliza. ngakhale mtima wake unkafuna kuti nditero). Patapita milungu ingapo kuti zimenezi zichitike, makamaka tsiku limenelo, iye anathetsa chibwenzicho ndipo mawa lake anandiuza zimenezi. Ndalola zonse kutha mpaka tsiku lomaliza. Nthawi zambiri ndinkamulonjeza kuti asiye kuti tithe kukhalira limodzi chikondi chathu. Nthawi zonse ndinkalakalaka nditatuluka m’dambomo kuti ndimupatse zomwe zinamuyenerera, koma sindinathe ndipo pamapeto pake ndinamuluza. Zonse zinali zitangotha ​​kumene. Ndinazindikira kuti anali mapasa anga, mwadzidzidzi ndinayamba kumukonda kwambiri, koma nthawi yomweyo ndinayenera kuzindikira kuti ndikumuopseza ndi khalidwe langa lazaka zambiri, kuti ndikuwononga chikondi chake chozama kwa ine. Ubwenzi wathunthu, mgwirizano wathu wakuya unatha mwadzidzidzi ndipo ndinagwera m'dzenje loipa m'masiku / masabata / miyezi yotsatira. Ndinadutsa muubwenzi wonse kwa maola tsiku lililonse, ndikukumbukira nthawi zonse zomwe sindinayamikire, chikondi chake, mphatso zake zaumwini, kukumbukira nthawi zonse zonse zomwe ndinachita kwa iye komanso chofunika kwambiri, kukhala ndi ululu wake. Mwadzidzidzi ndinazindikira kuti akuvutika kwambiri ndipo sindikanatha kudzikhululukira chifukwa cholola kuti zimenezi zichitike, pamene ndinkamukonda ndi mtima wanga wonse ndipo ndinamvetsa kuti anali mnzanga wapamtima. Ndinkalira pafupifupi tsiku lililonse pachiyambi ndi kubwezeretsa ululu mobwerezabwereza, ndikudya ndi liwongo ndikusiya kuwona kuwala kumapeto kwa chizimezime. Ndakhala ndi zibwenzi zina zopweteka m'moyo wanga, koma palibe chomwe chingafanane ndi kulekana kumeneku. Zinandipweteka kwambiri ndipo ndinakumana ndi zowawa kwambiri pamoyo wanga. Mu sabata yoyamba ya kupatukana, ndidamulemberanso buku lomwe ndidakonza zambiri ndikukulitsa chiyembekezo (bukuli lidzasindikizidwa kumapeto kwa chaka ndikulongosola moyo wanga, ntchito yanga yauzimu, ubale komanso, pamwambapa. zonse, chitukuko changa mwatsatanetsatane kusweka, momwe ndinatha kudutsa zowawa, kupezanso chisangalalo). Chabwino ndiye, ndithudi ndinali ndi zokondweretsa masiku ena, ndinamva bwino, ndinachita mozama ndi moyo wanga ndipo ndinaphunzira zambiri za ine ndekha komanso za maubwenzi, miyoyo iwiri ndi ubwenzi. Komabe, nthawi zowawazo zinalipo ndipo ndinaganiza kuti izi sizidzatha. Koma m’kupita kwa nthawi zinakhala bwino, maganizo ake sanachepe, koma maganizo ake anayambanso kukhazikika, moti maganizo salinso owawa.

Miyoyo iwiri nthawi zonse imawonetsa malingaliro awo..!!

Ndinakula tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo polimbana ndi ululu wanga mozama ndinatha kumvetsetsa ndikupindula nawo. Ndinamuthokoza tsopano, ndikuthokoza kuti analimba mtima kuti asiyane nane, chifukwa izi zidandipatsa mwayi wothetsa chizolowezi changa komanso mwayi wodzikulitsa ndekha (mnzanga wapamtima adandipempha kuti nditero kuti ndikhale wosangalala/ kuchiritsidwa/kwathunthu). Sitinalinso adani, m’malo mwake, tinali ndi cholinga chimodzi chomanga ubwenzi wina ndi mnzake. Komabe, poyamba, ubwenzi umenewu unapita kutali kwambiri, pamene ndinkangokhalira kukangana naye ndi mfundo yakuti sindingathe kuthetsa ndipo ndimamukondabe. Munthawi zotere INE NDINAMWAWA ndi iye. Anachotsa chinyengo chamkati kuti tibwererane ndipo potero adawonetsa momwe ndimaganizira panopa, mkhalidwe wamkati wosakhoza, kukhumudwa, kusakhutira ndi kusalinganika kwamkati mkati. Ine ndiye poyamba ndinawawa kwambiri, sindimamvetsa kuti safuna bwenzi lapitalo amene anali wosimidwa ndi kumamatira kwa iye, munthu amene sakanatha KUSINTHA ndipo sakanalola kuti akhale, munthu amene amamuletsa. Ndicho chimene chiri chapadera pa miyoyo iwiri! Miyoyo yamapasa nthawi zonse imakuwonetsani komwe muli pakadali pano, momwe malingaliro anu aliri 1: 1, osaipitsidwa, olunjika komanso olimba. Ndikadakhala wokhutira kapena ndikadasambira kuvomereza mkhalidwe wanga, ndiye kuti sindikanamuuza kuti sindingathe kupirira ndipo sindingathe kukhala popanda iye, ndiye kuti akanachita bwino kwambiri ndikuwonetsa mkhalidwe wokhazikika wamoyo. kuzindikira kuchokera kwa ine (Inde, kuti zomwe mukuganiza ndi kumva mkati mwanu zimawonekera kunja, makamaka mapasa amoyo amamva kapena amawona kupyolera mumaganizo omwe alipo tsopano). Chifukwa cha khalidweli, panali mtunda wochulukirapo, womwe udali wabwino, chifukwa mtunda wowonjezerekawu udandiwonetsa kuti sindinali pamtendere ndi ine ndekha ndipo ndiyenera KUPITIRIZA mtsogolo. Ngakhale kuti nthawizi zidandibwezera mmbuyo mosiyanasiyana mosiyanasiyana, popeza ndimamva kuti ndimachita zinthu mopanda nzeru mobwerezabwereza ndikuziletsa chifukwa cha khalidwe langa, ndinali wokhoza kuzindikira momwe ndimaganizira pambuyo pake. kupitilira munjira iyi.

Ululu unasintha!!

Choncho patapita nthawi ndinayamba kukhala bwino. Ululuwo unasintha ndipo ukhoza kusandulika kukhala wopepuka. Nthawi zomwe ndinali wodzaza ndi chisoni ndi kudziimba mlandu zidacheperachepera ndipo malingaliro abwino okhudza iye adakula. Ndinazindikiranso kuti sizokhudza zimenezo kapena kuti kubwera pamodzi ndi moyo wamapasa sikungandichiritse kwathunthu, kuti iyi ndi njira yokhayo, koma ndinamvetsetsa kuti ndikukhalanso wangwiro ndipo potero ndikuphwanya ubale ndi mapasa omwe akhalapo. pakuti zobadwa zosawerengeka zilipo kuti zitha kuchiritsa. Ndinazindikira kuti tsopano ndiyenera kukhala wosangalala, kuti ndikufunikanso mphamvu ya chikondi changa chamkati. Mukadzikonda nokha kwathunthu, mumasamutsa chikondicho, chisangalalo ndi kupepuka kupita kudziko lakunja ndikupeza chidziwitso chokwanira. Pamapeto pake, masewera amtundu wapawiri amakhudzanso kuvomereza momwe zinthu zilili, chidziwitso chathunthu chamunthu kapena moyo wake momwe uliri. Chabwino, patapita pafupifupi 3 months ululu pafupifupi kwathunthu mbisoweka. Nthawi zomwe malingaliro olakwika akale adasunthira m'chikumbumtima changa chatsiku ndi tsiku sizinalipo ndipo ndidakhalanso wopepuka. Ndinakwanitsa kuchoka m’chipwirikiticho n’kuyang’ana zam’tsogolo molimba mtima, podziwa kuti tsogolo langa lidzakhala labwino kwambiri. Ndinapulumuka nyengo yamdima kwambiri ya moyo wanga, ndinagwiritsa ntchito ululu pa chitukuko chaumwini ndikukhalanso wosangalala. Zomwezo zidzakuchitikiraninso. Sindikudziwa kuti ndinu ndani kapena mukuchokera kuti, zolinga zanu m'moyo ndi chiyani komanso zomwe zimakuyendetsani pa moyo wanu. Koma chinthu chimodzi chimene ndikudziwa motsimikiza, ndikudziwa kuti ngakhale mkhalidwe wanu utakhala wowawa bwanji, ngakhale moyo wanu utakhala wakuda bwanji pakali pano, mudzapezanso kuunika kwanu. Mudzadziwa nthawi ino ndipo nthawi ina mudzatha kuyang'ana mmbuyo ndi kunyada kwathunthu. Mudzakhala okondwa kuti munatha kuthana ndi ululu uwu ndi kuti munakhala munthu wamphamvu yemwe mudzakhala. Osakayikira kuti kamphindi, musataye mtima ndikudziwa kuti timadzi tokoma tamoyo tagona mkati mwanu ndipo posachedwapa tidzakhalaponso. Poganizira izi, khalani athanzi, okhutira ndikukhala moyo wogwirizana.

Ndine wokondwa ndi chithandizo chilichonse ❤