Kukonda kudzikonda kolimba kumapereka maziko a moyo womwe sitingopeza kuchuluka, mtendere ndi chisangalalo, komanso kukopa mikhalidwe m'miyoyo yathu yomwe siyinakhazikike pakusowa, koma pafupipafupi zomwe zimagwirizana ndi kudzikonda kwathu. Komabe, m'dziko lamasiku ano lotsogozedwa ndi machitidwe, ndi anthu ochepa okha omwe amadziwika kuti amadzikonda.Kupanda kugwirizana ndi chilengedwe, ngakhale chidziwitso chilichonse cha malo oyamba - osadziwa zapadera komanso zapadera za umunthu wake.), pambali pa mfundo yakuti timadutsa mu njira zophunzirira zoyambira mkati mwa thupi losawerengeka, zomwe timatha, pakapita nthawi, kufika ku mphamvu yeniyeni ya kudzikonda kwathu (njira yokhala amphumphu).

Zosowa zochizira - Dzilowetseni mochuluka

Kuti anthu ochulukirachulukira akukonzekera bwino kubadwa kwawo chifukwa cha kusintha kwakukulu kwamagulu (ngakhale zitavuta bwanji kwa anthu ena kuganiza) ndikuyandikira chikhalidwe chawo chenicheni chozikidwa pa kudzikonda, koma sikunapangidwe kukhala gawo lalikulu la nkhaniyi. Ndikufuna kupita mochulukira pa ife eni, kutengera kuchuluka, ndikuwonetsanso kufunikira kwakanthawi kwamapangidwe athu a EGO. M'nkhaniyi, chifukwa cha umunthu wosiyanasiyana wa EGO, ife anthu timakonda kulenga zenizeni (zomwe timalowamo chifukwa cha kudziteteza), zomwe zimachokera ku chikhalidwe cha chidziwitso chomwe kusowa kudzikonda kulipo. Zotsatira zake, timakopa mikhalidwe m'miyoyo yathu yomwe siinakhazikike pa kuchuluka koma kusowa. Pamapeto pake, izi zikutanthauza zochitika zosiyanasiyana m'moyo, zomwe timakumana nazo ndipo nthawi zambiri zimasokonezedwa molakwika ndi kuchuluka kwenikweni. Mwachitsanzo, titha kukopanso mabwenzi omwe ali pachiwopsezo, koma ndi anthu omwe ali paubwenzi omwe amakumananso ndi vuto lofananira ndipo pachifukwa ichi amatumikira moyo wathu wa uzimu ndi m'malingaliro mwapadera kwambiri. Zoonadi, mikangano yosathetsedwa ndi zomangira zina nthawi zambiri zimapangidwa mkati mwa mgwirizano, koma izi zimakhala ndi khalidwe losiyana kwambiri tikamakopa wokondedwa pamene tikukhala pafupi kwambiri ndi chikhalidwe chathu chenicheni (ngakhale pali zochitika zomwe zonsezi zimatsogolera njira , kutsata . kudzaza, kuponda / mbuye, - Koma monga zimadziwika bwino, kupatula kumatsimikizira lamulo).

Pamene ndinayamba kudzikonda ndekha, ndinadzimasula ndekha ku chilichonse chomwe sichinali chabwino kwa ine, chakudya, anthu, zinthu, zochitika ndi chirichonse chomwe chimandigwetsa pansi, kutali ndi ine ndekha. koma tsopano ndikudziwa kuti uku ndi "kudzikonda". - Charlie Chaplin..!!

Munthu nthawi zonse amajambula zomwe ali komanso zomwe amawonetsa m'moyo wake, zomwe zimagwirizana ndi kuchuluka kwake. Lamulo lofunikira lomwe silingasinthe, inde, lomwe limagwira ntchito pa ife kwamuyaya chifukwa cha kuthekera kwathu kumveka (Chilichonse ndi mphamvu, pafupipafupi, kugwedezeka → mzimu).

Kuyandikira ku chikhalidwe chathu chenicheni

Pamene tikuyenda njira yopitira ku chikondi chathu kapena njira yopita kumoyo wathu weniweni, timalumikizananso ndi anthu osiyanasiyana komanso zochitika zosiyanasiyana m'moyo wathu. Komabe, popeza timakumana ndi umunthu wosiyanasiyana wa EGO panjira yoti tikhale amphumphu, timakopanso mikhalidwe yofananira, mwachitsanzo, mikhalidwe yomwe imagwirizana ndi kapangidwe kathu kakanthawi ka EGO, komwe sikungakhale kolakwa, mosiyana, chifukwa monga tafotokozera kale. m'gawoli, ndizotheka kuti tizindikire zomanga zomwe zimagwirizana mwachindunji. Makhalidwe ofanana a EGO nawonso ndi ofunikira kwambiri pankhaniyi, chifukwa amatipatsa chizindikiritso. Kupanda kutero, popeza sitikudziŵa za chikhalidwe chathu chenicheni (kuchuluka, chikondi, umulungu, chilengedwe, choonadi, nzeru, mtendere, ndi zina zotero), tingadzimve kukhala otayika mkati (tikanakhala opanda chizindikiritso chenicheni). Munthu yemwe amakumana ndi umunthu wofananira, mwachitsanzo wina yemwe amazindikira mwamphamvu kudzera muzinthu zakuthupi, amafunikira chizindikiritsochi kuti akhale ndi dongosolo losakhalitsa lomwe angatengere mphamvu (ngati chizindikiritsochi chikukhutitsidwa ndi kupeza zinthu zakuthupi, kungakhale limodzi ndi kumverera kwabwino kwakanthawi). Komabe, umunthu wa EGO woterewu umabweretsa mavuto ambiri pakapita nthawi chifukwa chakuti umachokera pakusowa m'malo mochuluka monga momwe timakhalira.

Chikondi ndi chifundo ndizo maziko a mtendere wapadziko lonse - pamagulu onse. – Dalai Lama..!!

Mwachiyanjano, mwachitsanzo, simungapatse mnzanu ufulu uliwonse, kapena mungakhale chifukwa cha kusadzidalira kwanu (kudzidalira = kudzizindikira - kudziona nokha, kutengera kuchuluka / chilengedwe, umulungu, etc.) ndi kuyang'ana zakuthupi (zopitazo molingana ndi chitsanzo chotchulidwa) zimabweretsa zolephera zamtundu uliwonse ndi zovuta. Kusazindikira kwa onse awiri kumagwirizana ndi malingaliro osakwaniritsidwa. Kaya onse awiri amawona machitidwewa palimodzi, amakulira limodzi, kupatukana kapena kukhalabe mkati mwa dongosololi mpaka mapeto a thupi lawo amadalira payekha, ngakhale zinthu zabwino zomwe zilipo panopa kuti athe kuchoka pa umunthu wa EGO kapena kuzindikira kuti izi ndizokhazikika. machitidwe.

chozizwitsa chikuchitika

Komabe, popeza panopa tikukonzekera a M'badwo wagolide tsatirani ndipo, chifukwa chake, anthu ambiri amayandikira kwambiri ku chikhalidwe chawo chenicheni, mikhalidwe yosiyana kotheratu imawonekera. Mukangoyandikira ku chikhalidwe chanu chenicheni, inde, mwazindikira kale + kuwongolera zofooka zambiri ndipo mukupita kuti mukhale amphumphu, zozizwitsa zimachitikadi, chifukwa ndiye timakoka mikhalidwe, anzathu ndi machitidwe m'miyoyo yathu. nazonso zimagwirizana ndi chikhalidwe chathu chenicheni (kuchuluka kwa chikhalidwe chenicheni). Ndiye kupyolera mu kuchuluka kwa chilengedwe kuti ife, kuchokera mkati mwa mitima yathu, timakopa zomwe nthawi zonse zimapangidwira chikhalidwe chathu chenicheni. Kukumana kofananira kumayendera limodzi ndi mphamvu yosiyana kotheratu, ndipo koposa zonse, kuya chifukwa cha kukhwima m'malingaliro. Maubwenzi ambiri athyoledwa ndipo zopanda malire komanso ufulu umabwera poyamba. Mayanjano ndiye amawonedwanso mosiyana. Kukhudza ndi kukoma mtima kumachokera ku kutseguka kwa mtima / kudzaza kwamtima ndipo kungathe, mwamatsenga, kukupangitsani kunjenjemera mkati. Kulumikizana kwamalingaliro kumawonekera mochulukira, kungoti mumazindikira (kukopa) maulalo awa, omwe amabwera chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwanu. Kuchuluka kwachilengedwe kumeneku kumayenderanso limodzi ndi kunola kwa mphamvu zathu zonse. Mukamachita ndi inu nokha ndi dziko lapansi, mumakhala osamala kwambiri ndipo mumawona bwino kwambiri, kumva, kununkhiza komanso, koposa zonse, kumva.

Njira yopita ku kuchulukira kwachilengedwe imapezeka kudzera muzobadwa ndipo nthawi zambiri imakhala yamwala komanso yovuta. Momwemonso, palibe njira wamba yomwe munthu aliyense ayenera kutenga kuti apeze zochuluka. Chifukwa cha umunthu wathu komanso chifukwa tikuyimira njira, choonadi ndi moyo wokha, ndikofunikira pano kuti tidzipeze tokha, kudziphunzitsa tokha, kudalira njira yako komanso chiyambi chako. Ndife omwe timapanga zenizeni zathu komanso timagwiranso ntchito pamitu yokhazikika. Njira zathu ndizosiyana kotheratu ndipo aliyense amafunikira zilakolako zake, ngakhale, kumapeto kwa tsiku, atsogolere ku zochitika zomwezo, zomwe ndi zenizeni zaumulungu ..!!

Mphamvu zanu zodziwika bwino zimakulolani kumvetsetsa kuti chilichonse chili ndi tanthauzo lake komanso kuti mumakhala pamalo oyenera panthawi yoyenera. Pamodzi ndi izi, timachita mochulukirachulukira kuchokera mu mtima mwathu ndipo timakhala ndi moyo womwe taphunzira kuukonda ndi mbali zake zonse. Inde, chifukwa cha umunthu wathu weniweni, chifukwa cha kuchuluka komwe kumabwera nawo, timakhalanso ndi chikondi champhamvu pa nthawi yomweyo. Ndipo chifukwa cha nthawi yomwe ili yamphamvu kwambiri, tonse titha kupita kudera lolingana. Makamaka tikalola mtima kutseguka ndikuchita kudzutsidwa kwauzimu/uzimu. Zozizwitsa zidzachitika. Poganizira izi, khalani athanzi, osangalala komanso mukhale ndi moyo wogwirizana. 🙂

Ndine wokondwa ndi chithandizo chilichonse 🙂