Tonsefe timapanga zenizeni zathu mothandizidwa ndi chidziwitso chathu komanso njira zoganizira. Titha kusankha tokha momwe tikufuna kuumba moyo wathu wamakono ndi zochita zomwe timachita, zomwe tikufuna kuwonetsa zenizeni zathu ndi zomwe siziri. Koma kupatula malingaliro ozindikira, chikumbumtima chimagwirabe ntchito yofunika kwambiri pakukonza zenizeni zathu. Chidziwitso chachikulu kwambiri komanso nthawi yomweyo chobisika kwambiri chomwe chimakhazikika kwambiri mu psyche yaumunthu. Kuthekera kwakukulu kopanga kumagona mmenemo chifukwa chidziwitso ndi malo omwe malingaliro ndi machitidwe onse amasungidwa.

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Mbali yayikulu yomwe imapangitsa kuti chidziwitso chikhale chosangalatsa kwambiri ndizomwe zimatchedwa kuti mapulogalamu omwe akhazikika kwambiri mumanetiwu ndipo mobwerezabwereza amawonekera mu chidziwitso chathu. Kukonzekera kumatanthawuza kaganizidwe kokhazikika, kachitidwe kachitidwe, zikhulupiriro ndi zochita zomwe zimatuluka mobwerezabwereza ndikufuna kukhala ndi moyo. Awa ndi malingaliro omwe ali ozama kwambiri mu psyche yathu, malingaliro omwe amawonekera mobwerezabwereza ndi kupanga chenicheni chathu chopezeka paliponse. Pakhoza kukhala malingaliro abwino ndi oyipa omwe amafikira kuzindikira kwathu. Malingaliro awa abwera pakapita nthawi kudzera muzokumana nazo ndi malingaliro athu m'moyo ndipo adawotchedwa mu chikumbumtima. Pazifukwa izi, chikumbumtima ndiye chinsinsi chotha kupanga chowonadi chabwino komanso chogwirizana, chifukwa malingaliro athu ambiri oyipa ali ndi chiyambi chawo mu chikumbumtima ndipo amatha kutha ngati titha kuyambiranso. Kuchuluka kwa mapulogalamu osungidwa kumasiyanasiyana kwambiri ndipo chifukwa chake, nthawi yosiyana imafunika pa lingaliro lililonse lokhazikika.

Pulogalamu yamphamvu yopepuka

Ndili ndi chitsanzo chabwino pa izi. Ndinali munthu woweruza kwambiri ndili wamng’ono, ndipo khalidwe limeneli linaikidwa m’kati mwa chikumbumtima changa. Pa nthawiyo ndinachititsidwa khungu ndi misonkhano ya chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso pawailesi yakanema ndipo chifukwa cha zimenezi ndinamwetulira anthu amene anali ndi maganizo a dziko osagwirizana ndi anga. Komabe, usiku umodzi wokha, ndinazindikira kuti ziweruzo n’zolakwika, kuti zimangolepheretsa munthu kukhala wauzimu komanso kuti alibe ufulu woweruza moyo wa munthu wina. Kuzindikira kumeneku kunandisonkhezera kwambiri ndipo kunachititsa kuti chikhale chikhulupiriro changa chatsopano. M'masiku otsatira, chikumbumtima changa chinkandikumbutsa za ndondomeko yakale ya ziweruzo, koma tsopano sindinalowemo ndipo ndinadziuza ndekha kuti ziweruzo zinalibe ntchito kwa ine. M'kupita kwa nthawi, ndinakonzanso chikumbumtima changa ndi kuzindikira kwatsopano kumeneku ndipo zidachitika kuti malingaliro akuya, olakwikawa adazimiririka. Kotero ndinatha kulenga zenizeni zatsopano, zenizeni zomwe sindinaziweruzenso. Kulimba kwake kunali kocheperako, kutanthauza kuti zinali zophweka kwa ine kuchotsa malingaliro achiweruzo awa.

Kuchuluka kwa Chizoloŵezi

Ndizofanana ndi zoledzeretsa, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa kuchulukirachulukira ndipo nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuzichotsa kuchokera ku chikumbumtima (zowona, zonse zimadalira kwambiri zomwe zimagwirizana). Nditengera kusuta monga chitsanzo apa. Masiku ano, anthu ambiri angafune kusiya kusuta, koma nthawi zambiri amalephera kuchita izi komanso kuti sizimangokhudzana ndi zinthu zakuthupi, mwachitsanzo, ndi chikonga chomwe chimakhala ndi zolandilira zathu ndipo chimatipangitsa kukhala odalira, koma mochuluka kwambiri ndi zosaoneka, mbali yodziwikiratu kuchita. Vuto la kusuta ndiloti, kupatulapo zinthu zoledzeretsa komanso kusuta kumayaka mu chikumbumtima. Pachifukwa ichi, wosuta amakumana ndi maganizo osuta mobwerezabwereza, chifukwa chikumbumtima chimabweretsa malingalirowa mobwerezabwereza. Choyipa chake ndikuti malingaliro omwe mumawaganizira nthawi zonse amachulukirachulukira ndipo mukasuta, mukangodzilola kuti muganizire za iwo, mumapereka pulogalamuyo, kumverera kwa chikhumbo ndiye kumakhala kolimba kwambiri. Pazifukwa izi, chikhumbocho chimangotha ​​ngati mutakonzanso chidziwitso chanu pankhaniyi pakapita nthawi. Pakapita nthawi, malingalirowa amacheperachepera ndipo nthawi ina mumasokoneza lingaliro lokhazikika la ndudu mumphukira.

Mapulogalamu apamwamba kwambiri

Koma palinso mapulogalamu okhazikika omwe amafunikira mphamvu zambiri kuti asungunuke. Mpaka mwezi wapitawo, mwachitsanzo, ndidakali paubwenzi wazaka zitatu. M’kati mwa gawo lolekanitsa, malingaliro amphamvu a liwongo anayaka m’chikumbumtima changa mobwerezabwereza ndi tsiku lirilonse, pafupifupi mphindi iliyonse, ndinayang’anizana ndi malingaliro ameneŵa a liwongo. Panthawiyi ndinali wokhumudwa kwambiri ndipo kulimba kwake kunali kwamphamvu kwambiri moti sindinkatha kupirira. Koma zinthu zinayenda bwino ndipo patapita kanthawi ndinazindikira mphamvu ya chikumbumtima changa ndikuyambanso kuyikonzanso. Nthawi zonse maganizo odziimba mlandu akabwera kapena malingaliro ena oyipa okhudzana ndi izi, nthawi zonse ndimayesetsa kuzindikira maziko abwino. Ndinayesa kusintha maganizo onse oipa kukhala abwino ndipo ngakhale kuti poyamba zinali zovuta kwambiri, m’kupita kwa nthaŵi ndinatha kusintha kuvutika kwanga kodzibweretsera kukhala chisangalalo. Mwachitsanzo, ndinamupweteka kwambiri chifukwa cha mavuto aumwini (ndinkasuta udzu tsiku lililonse) ndipo chotero chikumbumtima changa chinandipangitsa kukhala ndi moyo kupyolera mu masautso omwe ndinamuchititsa mobwerezabwereza. Komabe, pamene mkhalidwe wotero unachitika, ndinachita zotsatirazi kuyambira pamenepo, ndipo nthaŵi zonse ndinali kukumbukira mbali zabwino za zochitika zimenezi. M'malo mokumana ndi zowawazo, ndinadziuza ndekha kuti zonse ziyenera kukhala monga momwe zilili, sizikadakhala mwanjira ina, kuti zonse zili bwino monga momwe zilili pano komanso kuti ndidzakhala bwenzi lapamtima kwa iye kuyambira pano. ndipo kupyolera mu izi ndidakwanitsa kusintha mapulogalamu osagonjetsekawa kukhala abwino. Ntchito yonseyi inali yovuta kwambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimayenera kupirira zopinga, koma patatha pafupifupi mwezi wa 1 malingaliro awa sanabwere ndipo ataperekedwa kwa ine, ndimayang'ana kwambiri zotsutsana ndi lingaliro lofananira. Chifukwa chake malingaliro olakwika sakhalaponso ndipo malingaliro achimwemwe ndi chisangalalo amawonekera pankhaniyi. Ngakhale kukanakhala kukonzanso kwakukulu komanso kozama, ndimatha kusintha kuzunzika kwamphamvu ndi chisangalalo kotero ichi ndiye crux ya nkhaniyi. kupanga moyo wachimwemwe mwangwiro.

maginito auzimu

Kuti tikwaniritse izi, ndikofunikira kudutsa zopinga zonse zamkati, kukonzanso malingaliro onse okhazikika mu chikumbumtima chomwe chimangodzivulaza. Mumawonetsetsa kuti chikumbumtima chanu chimangotulutsa malingaliro abwino, abwino m'malo motsutsa. Ngati mutha kutero, ndiye kuti umunthu wanu umangokhalira kukhazikika, chisangalalo, kuchuluka, chisangalalo ndi chikondi ndipo chifukwa chake mumakhala othokoza chifukwa cha izi. lamulo la resonance kulipidwa kokha ndi mphamvu izi. Munthu akatero amatha kukwaniritsa zokhumba zake zonse chifukwa chilengedwe chimayankha zimene munthu akufuna. Koma ngati muli achisoni, ndiye kuti chilengedwe chimangokupatsani chisoni chochulukirapo, maginito anu auzimu amangokoka malingaliro / "zokhumba?" m'moyo wanu womwe mumakhala nawo nthawi zonse, ndilo lamulo losasinthika. Ndipo popeza dziko lanu lamalingaliro limagwira ntchito ngati maginito omwe amakoka chilichonse m'moyo wanu chomwe mumalumikizana nacho, ndikofunikira kwambiri kukhala mu chisangalalo ndi chikondi kuti mukwaniritse maloto anu. Ngati mudzikonda nokha ndipo muli okondwa kwathunthu, ndiye kuti mumawunikira mkhalidwe wamkatiwu kupita kunja ndikungokopa zochitika, anthu ndi zochitika m'moyo wanu zomwe zimagwedezeka pafupipafupi. Poganizira izi, khalani athanzi, osangalala komanso mukhale ndi moyo wogwirizana.

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