Lingaliro la egoistic ndilofanana kwambiri ndi malingaliro amatsenga ndipo ndi omwe amachititsa kuti maganizo onse asokonezeke. Nthawi yomweyo, tili pakali pano m'zaka zomwe tikuthetsa pang'onopang'ono malingaliro athu odzikonda kuti tithe kupanga zenizeni zenizeni. Malingaliro odzitukumula nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi ziwanda kwambiri pano, koma kuchita ziwanda uku ndi khalidwe lolimba kwambiri. Kwenikweni, ndi zambiri za kuvomereza malingaliro awa, kukhala othokoza kwa iwo kuti athe kuwathetsa.

kuvomereza ndi kuyamikira

Nthawi zambiri timaweruza athu maganizo odzikonda, kuziwona ngati chinachake "choipa", malingaliro omwe ali ndi udindo wokhawo woyambitsa maganizo oipa, malingaliro ndi zochita ndipo amangodziletsa mobwerezabwereza, malingaliro omwe timanyamula mobwerezabwereza zolemetsa zomwe timadzichitira. Koma kwenikweni ndikofunikira kuti musamawone malingaliro awa ngati chinthu choyipa kapena choyipa. M'malo mwake, munthu ayenera kuyamikira kwambiri maganizo amenewa, ayenera kuthokoza kuti alipo ndi kuwaona ngati mbali ya moyo wake. Kuvomereza ndiye mawu ofunikira apa. Ngati simuvomereza malingaliro odzikonda ndikuzipanga ziwanda, ndiye kuti mumachita kuchokera muukonde wowuma kwambiriwu osadziwa. Koma maganizo odzikonda ndi mbali ya zenizeni za munthu. Munthu ayenera kumuthokoza chifukwa chotipatsa mwayi wokhala ndi dziko lazambiri. Zoyipa zonse zamunthu, zokumana nazo zonse zoyipa ndi zochitika zomwe munthu adapanga kudzera m'malingaliro awa, masiku onse amdima omwe takumana nawo chifukwa cha malingaliro athu odzikuza anali ofunikira pakukula kwathu. Zochitika zoyipa zonsezi, zina zomwe zidatipangitsa kumva zowawa kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale kupwetekedwa mtima kwambiri, makamaka zidatilimbitsa. Mikhalidwe yomwe tinali okhumudwa, ofooka, osadziwa chochita ndipo chisoni chinafalikira mwa ife, pamapeto pake zimangotanthauza kuti tinanyamuka mwamphamvu kuchokera kwa iwo. Kumbukirani nthawi zonse zowawa pamoyo wanu.

Chikondi chanu choyamba chachikulu chomwe chinakusiyani, munthu wapadera m'moyo wanu yemwe adamwalira, zochitika ndi zochitika zomwe simunadziwe choti muchite ndipo simunawone njira yotulukira. Pamapeto pake, ngakhale atakhala mdima bwanji masiku ano, mudawapulumuka ndipo mutha kukhala ndi nthawi yatsopano yomwe zinthu zidakweranso. Kutsika kwakukulu kumatsatiridwa nthawi zonse ndi kukwera kwakukulu ndipo izi zathandizira kutipanga ife omwe tiri lero. Izi zidatipangitsa kukhala amphamvu ndipo kumapeto kwa tsiku zinali zongophunzitsa tokha, nthawi zomwe zidakulitsa ndikusintha malingaliro athu.

Chochitika chilichonse cholakwika ndi cholondola

Choncho m’pofunika kuti muzikumana ndi zoterezi pa moyo wanu. Izi zimalola kuti kukula kuchitike ndikukupatsani mwayi wokulirapo kuposa nokha. Kupatula apo, munthu amaphunzira kuyamikira zochitika zabwino zoterozo, mabwenzi ndi achibale, chikondi, mgwirizano, mtendere ndi kupepuka zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, mukuyenera kuyamikira bwanji chikondi ngati chinalipo ndipo mudakumana nacho nokha. Pokhapokha mutawona phompho lakuya kwambiri m'pamene mumamvetsetsa kufunika ndi kukwaniritsa zochitika m'moyo wanu / zomwe munakumana nazo zamtundu uliwonse. Pachifukwa ichi munthu sayenera kuchita ziwanda, kudzudzula kapena kukana malingaliro ake odzikonda. Malingaliro awa ndi gawo la iwe mwini ndipo uyenera kukondedwa ndi kuyamikiridwa kwambiri. Ngati mutero, simumangosungunula malingaliro awa, ayi, mumawaphatikiza kwambiri ndi zenizeni zanu ndikuwonetsetsa kuti kusintha kungachitike m'malingaliro awa. Munthu amayamikira kuti maganizo amenewa alipo ndipo kawirikawiri wakhala bwenzi mu moyo wake. Mmodzi amayamikira kuti wina adatha kukhala ndi zokumana nazo zambiri zophunzitsa ndipo adatha kuwona uwiri wa moyo chifukwa cha malingaliro awa. Mumayamika malingaliro awa ndikuvomereza ngati malingaliro ophunzitsa omwe akhala akukuthandizani nthawi zonse. Mukachita izi ndikuvomereza ndikuyamikiranso malingaliro amenewo, chinthu chodabwitsa chidzachitika nthawi yomweyo, ndipo ndiko kuchiritsa kwamkati. Mumachiritsa ubale woipa womwe muli nawo ndi malingaliro amenewo ndikusintha mgwirizanowo kukhala chikondi. Ichinso ndi sitepe yofunika kwambiri kuti athe kupanga kuwala kwathunthu / zabwino zenizeni. Munthu ayenera kuthokoza ndikusintha malingaliro onse oyipa kukhala abwino, izi zimatsegulira njira yochiritsira komanso mtendere wamkati kuti ukhalepo. M’lingaliro limeneli khalani athanzi, osangalala ndi kukhala ndi moyo mogwirizana.

Ndine wokondwa ndi chithandizo chilichonse ❤